This is an eye opening article! I used to find myself committing these mannerisms almost on a daily basis, we might not be aware or take note of them when we do but we sure do commit some of the points listed below one way or the other in our workplace and also our everyday life. We have to be more aware as to how people undermine our worth and perception.Once you understand your value, you’ll be more likely to protect it. A lot of the time, women weaken their reputation and sabotage their success, without even knowing that we’re doing it.
This is a great advice for anyone that feels powerless or believes they do not have a voice.
Kindly read below…
- Using Weak Words – Women have a tendency to add the word justwhere it doesn’t belong. Saying “I just want to know” or “I’m just checking to see” or “‘I just called because”, which causes others in the workplace to perceive you as less powerful. When you avoid using weak words and carefully choose what you say and the meaning it portrays, it reflects your confidence. According to an article in The Harvard Business Review, people should always strive to replace meaningless words with stronger ones. For example, replace I think, I believe orI feel with I’m confident, I’m convinced or I expect. These simple replacements can make a difference in how our message is perceived.
- Being reactive not proactive – I am a great believer in the power of being strategic. The most powerful path to realizing our ambitions is a strategic one. When we keep the end goal in mind and develop a plan to reach that goal, it fuels our ambition and success. A reactive mode does not have the strength of conviction and promise that a proactive approach has. We give our power away when we leave things to chance or luck. Easily distracted, we also feel a lack of control over our career destiny.
- Over Apologizing – Have you ever counted the number of times you say ‘Sorry’ in one day? It’s likely a frighteningly large amount. The word might slip out when someone crowds your space at the gym, when you get cut in line, or in any other incident when you are certainly not at fault. But the worst place to say unnecessary sorrys is the office. According to Forbes, “Saying you’re sorry unnecessarily puts you in a subservient position.” When you over-apologize, you give away your power.
- Letting Others Take Ownership Of Your Ideas – Have you ever discussed an idea with your boss or a colleague and then sat silently in a meeting as your work confidant took credit for the idea? When this happens, don’t be afraid to take back the credit by saying something like “Thank you for bringing up this idea that I proposed earlier.” It’s not passive aggressive; it’s a smart tactic to preserve your reputation.
- Failing To Self-Promote – We often have a discomfort surrounding self-promotion; this habit causes us to rely on others to recognize our hard work and strong performance. But the truth is no one cares about your career as much as you do. So if you’re not your own strongest advocate, you’re at a serious disadvantage. When we fail to demonstrate our value to others, we present ourselves as less valuable. Understand your own contribution to positive business outcomes. This will enable you to excel.
- Not Using Your Social Capital – We are often too quick to offer our help and hesitant to request help from others. According to Forbes, “Power comes from knowing the relationship between how we do our work and positive business outcomes, our value proposition. There is power in using influence to build mutually beneficial relationships in our industry.” If you don’t leverage your impact and relationships, both of which you’ve worked hard to build, then you’re losing power. “There is power in asking for what we want and need.”
- Choosing Liability Over Effectiveness – Women are often expected to be nice in the workplace. But if you spend your energy trying to be liked as opposed to trying to be effective, you’re not going to build a powerful reputation. According to Forbes, “If our primary focus is to be liked, we will not likely be viewed as a leader. We risk being seen as a doormat who waffles in our opinions because we are primarily seeking approval from others.” Think of Steve Jobs. Was he liked by all? No. Was he a powerful leader? Absolutely.
Kindly share more ways women can stop losing their power and credibility at workplace or business.