Recent days have seen more of break-ups, divorces, abuse in marriages and unfaithfulness in relationships, in alarming numbers. Such that helps us question the individual purposes of going into relationships. To lay this emotional curiosity to rest requires a cross examination of different subjects; age, love, future plans, compatibility and loads of others. Arriving at a safe zone after putting all these into perspective is what everyone requires before aspiring to fulfil their surging desires. Leads us to this question:
WHY DO WE HAVE MORE FAULTY RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES IN THIS GENERATION?
Trying to answer the above further drives us to investigate the readiness of a person to commit his/her attention to another without bias.
AM I PREPARED FOR THIS RELATIONSHIP?
To be prepared means to be in place, plan and ease into it. Relationship isn’t forced. You don’t possibly expect a crate of egg to hold bottles. Chaos! Readiness is key but then you’d have to ask yourself.
HOW DO I KNOW I AM READY?
It’s considering what you want and why you want it with sincerity. The heart may be gullible but it never lies. Look within. Do you think you’re ready because weddings are the in-thing? Maybe because there’s pressure from family? Am I getting too old? Nah, readiness is a personal conviction. One step away and we’d talk about compatibility.
HOW DO I KNOW IF THE OTHER PARTY IS READY AND WILLING?
Blunt sincerity! Seeing him/her for whom they are. People disguise, unfortunately. The heart can be fooled but not the brain. If that happens it will be solely on your decision.
As humans, it is a duty to nature that we must feel but a harm to us if we feel a little too much. This is how you know, be open yet say little. Every good thing takes time. Listen more.
YOU CAN SHARE YOURS TOO. IT AIDS HEALING AND GIVES STRENGTH.
WHY DO WE HAVE MORE FAILED RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES?
Written by Femi Fragile.