Based on Direct/Indirect observation, Psychometrics, and a poll from the thousands of emails I receive from my readers, “bae” searchers and prospective clients ; it seems like Love in our Generation comes with a price. Do you agree?….
Most men today are looking for the following :
1️⃣ A Lady with an above decent paying Job ( at least 200 -250k)
2️⃣ A lady with a foreign passport ( Born in the US or UK 🇬🇧🇺🇸)
3️⃣ A lady who has MBA or Msc. Bsc almost doesn’t count anymore
4️⃣ A lady who has a car, some guys don’t want to pay for uber and taxi fair anymore
5️⃣A lady who has her own place and doesn’t cramp his own personal space
6️⃣A lady whose parents have strong connections in Politics or Corporate world
7️⃣ A lady who contributes money to every date, outing, bills payment etc
Abraham Maslow, a renowned Psychologist in his hierarchy of needs theory stated that without Physiology we can not reach the love and belonging stage. I.e without ( food, water, basic needs) we can’t love appropriately. Has Maslow’s theory affected us as Nigerians as a result of the bad economy.
A lot of Nigerian men today are gradually moving towards ladies who have something to bring to the table. You hear things like. ” omo that babe dey drive benz she be wife material o”, ” when I combine my income with the oil & gas babes own my empire go complete”
This being said, the economy is always going to be a strong factor in our lives but let’s try find love amidst these hardships. You can be rich today and be poor tomorrow I.e the economy is a variable but when Love is built on a strong foundation it will be a constant. It is really sad that income, area you life, family connects, color of your passport now takes front row seats over Personality attributes and traits.
DO YOU AGREE?
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By Adejoro Olumofin